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LGBTQ+ sex, relationships & health

Inclusive, shame-free guides on LGBTQ+ sex, sexual health, pleasure and relationships. Written for every identity, by Cliterally The Best.

Sex vs Gender: what’s the difference and why does it matter?

Sex vs Gender: what’s the difference and why does it matter?

  • Evie Plumb

Learn the scientific difference between biological sex and gender identity and why understanding it matters for healthcare, respectful discourse, and supporting trans and non-binary lives with evidence-based, affirming sources.

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The LGBTQ+ Safer Sex Guide

The LGBTQ+ Safer Sex Guide

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

Comprehensive LGBTQ+ safer sex guide covering STI prevention, barrier methods, PrEP, PEP, and inclusive sexual health information for all queer identities. Shame-free, evidence-based advice from UK and international LGBTQ+ health organisations.

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What is Asexuality? A guide to understanding asexuality

What is Asexuality? A guide to understanding asexuality

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

Discover what asexuality means with Cliterally The Best’s guide to understanding asexuality. Learn about the ace spectrum, common misconceptions, and how to support asexual people in this inclusive and informative article.

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Most of us got a sex education that assumed everyone in the room was straight and cis. If you're not, that left a lot of gaps. This is your space for inclusive, shame-free articles on LGBTQ+ sex, pleasure, sexual health and relationships, written for queer people rather than bolted on as an afterthought.

Maybe you're figuring out safer sex that actually fits the sex you're having. Maybe you're working through coming out, finding affirming healthcare, or you just want to read about relationships that look like yours. Whatever brought you here, you'll find honest, practical guidance, with no assumptions about who you are, who you love or how you have sex.

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Sex vs Gender: what’s the difference and why does it matter?

Sex vs Gender: what’s the difference and why does it matter?

  • Evie Plumb

Learn the scientific difference between biological sex and gender identity and why understanding it matters for healthcare, respectful discourse, and supporting trans and non-binary lives with evidence-based, affirming sources.

The LGBTQ+ Safer Sex Guide

The LGBTQ+ Safer Sex Guide

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

Comprehensive LGBTQ+ safer sex guide covering STI prevention, barrier methods, PrEP, PEP, and inclusive sexual health information for all queer identities. Shame-free, evidence-based advice from UK and international LGBTQ+ health organisations.

What is Asexuality? A guide to understanding asexuality

What is Asexuality? A guide to understanding asexuality

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

Discover what asexuality means with Cliterally The Best’s guide to understanding asexuality. Learn about the ace spectrum, common misconceptions, and how to support asexual people in this inclusive and informative article.

Sapphic sexual health: essential tips and common myths debunked

Sapphic sexual health: essential tips and common myths debunked

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

When it comes to sexual health, all of us deserve information that’s clear, helpful, and free from shame. This is especially important for sapphic relationships, where the conversation around sexual health can sometimes feel underrepresented or confusing – in sex ed class and as an adult!

Understanding Sex vs Gender: Science, Biology, and Inclusion

Understanding Sex vs Gender: Science, Biology, and Inclusion

  • Evie Plumb (she/her)

Learn the difference between sex and gender, why intersex variations show the biological diversity of sex, and how understanding this supports inclusive, trans-affirming healthcare and respectful communication.

Queer FAQs

The most common Cliterally community questions, answered.

Do I need to worry about STIs if I only have sex with people with vulvas? 

Yes, it's worth thinking about. STIs like HPV, herpes, trichomoniasis and chlamydia can all be passed on through oral sex, fingering, scissoring and shared toys. Regular testing, dental dams, gloves and washing (or covering) toys between partners all help.

PrEP is medication that massively reduces the risk of getting HIV. It's for anyone who could be exposed to HIV, whatever their gender or sexuality. In the UK it's free from sexual health clinics.

 Many sexual health clinics run queer-specific services, and LGBTQ+ charities often keep lists of affirming providers. If a service makes you feel judged or misgendered, you're allowed to ask for someone else or go somewhere else.

Not at all. Labels can feel affirming, and they can also change over time, or never quite fit. You're allowed to use whatever words feel right, or none at all.

Look for therapists who say they're LGBTQ+-affirming or have experience with gender and sexual diversity. In the UK, the Pink Therapy directory is a brilliant place to start, and you can browse our own therapist directory too.